Why I Do This

Why I Do This

I do this so that couples can have more connection with each other.

So that they can feel their love and commitment for each other more clearly.

So that they can feel like they are on the same team and so they can enjoy each other even more.

When couples are having difficulty connecting they can feel shame about it. They can feel isolated or like everyone else is doing fine, but not them. They can also give up.

Having this conversation - especially with other couples can help to dissolve the shame, the isolation, the feeling of we are the only ones, and help remind each couple to keep up the practices.

I believe that if couples begin to relate to each other in deeper connection we will pass that on to our children, our friends and their families. In turn that will affect our community, our culture, our government and businesses. The only thing that stands in the way of that chain reaction is when I (any of us) choose NOT to connect. But if I keep saying 'Yes' to connection, then connection keeps happening.

Bottom line: I think there is more 'good' in choosing to connect than choosing to turn away from connection.

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A mentor told me to write this out (above) so that I remember the reason that I would ask people to hire me. 

And why I would even attempt to take on this work that is so difficult to market. 

Another friend told me that the number one attribute that makes something sell-able -- it has to make something that is inconvenient - go away or make it less of a pain in the ass. 

Couples Coaching is kind of the kryptonite of sales. People often don't even think about it until they are in pain, stress, or even crisis, and it usually arrives with at least a little shame about how "you haven't quite got it right." 

So I come back to why I do this. 

I want my family to feel connected. 
I want to feel connected to my wife. 
I want my daughter growing up feeling like she can connect to her loved ones. 
I want my friends to feel relief and feel included in the human race of imperfect situations.